Where do I begin ?
I can't emphasize this enough...I needed to be there. It was timely for me personally and professionally. Being married for 23 years, raising 5 children, nursing for 26 years, 7 years of humanitarian work in first nation communities as well as international aid had led to an ingrained philosophy of helping...helping....helping...at my personal expense and the expense of others. I experienced 2 revelations during the week:
1. I don't love or care myself ( ugghhhh...hard to admit)
2. I need to change the way I do things. I have to stop looking at deficits and look at assets. I need to stop helping people to death....( This is probably a direct result of point number 1...another uggghhh!).
Some of the great quotes that were mind altering for me:
" Be leary of people from religious organizations that fulfill their need to do good at the expense of those to whom they are giving...the charity thing screws up the deal"
" Healthcare professionals are paid to see the empty half of people"
" Love without Power is anemic and Power without love is abusive"
Martin Luther King as cited by Alan Sloane
" We need to transcend happiness...happiness is our biggest obstacle"
" We have within us a kindness and fearlessness that cannot be contained by anything except our own fear"
" You don't know what you need until you know what you don't have" John McKnight
" There is a difference between opinion and the motivation to act" Mike Green
I go to a LOT of conferences some helpful...some extremely boring and a waste of money. I was worried that this would be just another conference. Soooo wrong... I recieved life changing help at this conference and will return next year with hopefully a larger delegation from rural Albert County.